How could I, who dressed women for their success all of a sudden not know how to dress myself? That was a question that continually played in my head after the birth of my second. I am someone who loves style. Who gets excited when fashion week arrives just so I can see all of the stylish women walk the streets of New York, Paris and Milan. However, here I was standing in front of my closet, desperately trying to figure out what to wear. In my mind, I wanted to dress like I did before babies. Realistically, wearing the ruffle RED Valentino dress no longer worked for me. My body had shifted (as I like to put it) and I was tired. A mom tired? Shocking.
I knew how I wanted to look, but couldn’t get there.
Why was this such a struggle for me? Steph, snap out of this rut you are in! Again something I kept saying to myself. The truth is, I wasted a lot of money buying clothing that I sort of liked, but nothing that really inspired me to get dressed. Wait, say that again…but nothing that really inspired me to get dressed. Ok, I think I’m on to something…
Inspiration is the key to motivation.
You have to be inspired and then you will have the motivation. If you look at your clothing and it doesn’t inspire you to get dressed, that’s a problem. How you feel in your clothing, is important. I had to get clothing back in my closet that inspired me, made me feel good, and reflected my lifestyle. When you feel good, you look good. Right? Why should that matter?
The power of your clothing choices.
There is a constant message out there especially in social media directed at moms. Once you become a mom, it doesn’t matter what you wear. You’re tired. Wear your pj’s all day. That has always bothered me. Yes, as moms we are tired. When I’m home I dress extremely casual because I’m cooking, cleaning and taking care of everyone in my household. However, when I step out that front door, I’m not wearing that. Imagine having those items right at your fingertips. Imagine putting something on and instantly feeling great. The most important takeaway from this is, always how you feel.
I don’t just talk the talk.
For a short period of time I was in a major style rut and that I can say looking back it effected how I saw and felt about myself. My whole vision for 7 Days of Style started a few years ago, when I kept hearing things from women saying, “Oh I have nothing to wear”, “It doesn’t matter how I look”, “I never have any nice clothing”, “I’ve got kids, I don’t have time”. That comes from not having the right items in your closet to begin with. Not knowing where to shop and what to buy. Not truly understanding the power that clothing has and the opportunities it can provide you. I’m not saying to feel good is to wear a leopard coat and heels every day. I know what it takes to really love your wardrobe.
I believe in the power of clothing.
Every time I finish a wardrobe session with a client, I know I have set her on a path for only success. So how do I know? The second time I arrive back at her home for our styling session, I see how she is dressed. (Mic drop)